Rethinking Focus

As a coach, business owner, and human being – I often feel that I must have it all “together” when I post things.

I mean, I’m someone to whom people come when they need support in moving their life forward – not the one who sometimes feels insecure, afraid, and at times, like an imposter.

But alas, I am human, and I do get scared and I second-guess myself sometimes. That’s part of the normal human condition!

Focus. Focus. Focus. That’s what I have been telling myself while trying to grow my business while working four days a week at my job.

It’s what I’ve been telling myself when great ideas storm my brain and I get excited about them.

Focus is an illusive needle in the haystack because I want to do it all!

Now, you and I both know that can’t work, right? At least not well, and not without me burning out before I ever truly live out my full intentions.

Notice I didn’t say “achieve my goals” there?

Recently, I finished reading a book by Kyle Cease, The Illusion of Money, which provided a great amount of validation for letting go of the idea that checking off the accomplishments I make in my life somehow helps me live a more meaningful one.

Rather, the book helped me explore the importance of and recognize, at a deeper level, the value of setting intentions for how I want to BE in this world.

For example, by focusing on an intention such as “I want to live my best life”, then I can choose activities, people, jobs, etc. that fall into alignment with that intention. If I set the intention of “I want to bring understanding to the world”, then I will conduct myself and aspire to do things that support and encourage that intention.

The goals I have identified before (thinking they would help me get to my best life), I now understand that as soon as I achieved them, I ticked them off the To-Do list, and very shortly afterwards wondered, “What’s next”? In achieving  them, they did not necessarily change my way of “being”. Nor did they provide me with much satisfaction for very long once they were completed.

However, if I focus on an intention, then holistically, everything in my life falls into the categories that promote how I live and contribute to others during my lifetime.

Another way to look at this is through the idea of my life’s MTP (massive transformational purpose).

I came across this concept while listening to a Lewis Howes podcast (if you haven’t discovered The School of Greatness podcast yet, please click the link), and my first thought was, “This is like one huge overarching intention, right”?

What most comes to mind when I think about what this is for me is helping women live their best life by finding meaning, fulfillment, and value in what they do, how they do it, and supporting them to become who they want to be in their life.

A quick FYI here – I strongly dislike the expression YOLO (“you only live once”) because guess what? You don’t only live once, you live EVERY. SINGLE. DAY – you have the choice to live EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

Guess what we do once? We die once. We only have one death. That’s it. And that’s okay – because before that day comes – we have loads of opportunities to make our life count for ourselves and for others.

Do intentions change? Of course. We can have more than one intention – just like we can have more than one MTP. However, we need to be careful of having too many. Because focus is important – too many foci – fewer results, wishy washy intentions, and a weak MTP you will have.

I’m curious now – what’s your MTP? What intentions could you set for your life?

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